I have been digging deep to find a way of describing the 3 selves and how they work together in a way that opens the space and the possibility to test and try this approach. The other night, I began comparing their distinctions to a car, so here goes.
The Mental Body
This would be the steering system. It guides and steers and puts on the brakes when necessary, stops to refuel, accelerate or coast, or parks. This is a great description. The Conscious mind has the power to veto choices made by the subconscious. Re-educating our inner team with awareness makes the whole thing easier and manifestation more magical.
The iron grip of the mental body is a force to reckon with. That is why so many indigenous cultures had various forms of meditation. I believe a big part of embracing our humanness is the retraining of our conscious mind and subconscious mind to work together. Maybe this is an expression of the duality of our nature described in many of the Holy Books.
Remember historically we have placed a heavy importance to our conscious minds. True, it is where we learn discernment, but is very limited compared to the vast abilities held in our inner child/subconscious.The subconscious process over 11.000,000 bits of information per second and the conscious mind only 16. A little side note; with our reliance on technology we have given a false of power to our conscious minds or mental body. With a computer we process huge amounts of information per second and as a consequence of this we are becoming bored. Think about this, we have this vast reservoir of wisdom and knowledge we rarely tap into consciously. This is the great understanding of the super coaches. They systematically create exercises and repetitive assignments between these two selves until the conscious mind can surrender to our inner child, our inner genius. This is where the sublime happens. These are distinctions I have grokked from "User Illusion" and the work of Max Freedom Long.
The steering mechanism, the conscious mind is capable of coaching, initiating forgiveness (where we have caused harm to another), it is charge of correcting errors and getting back on track. One of its most important roles is to guide, help and love the inner child/subconscious mind.
When manifesting or praying this is where you form a picture, with specificity of your desired outcome, or the healed state.
It also helps the inner child let go of burdens, initiates deeds and acts of kindness to right wrongs, it can also determine if the prayer or request is worthy of the High Self. It is in charge of re-education the inner child, and can live from the healed state and give thanks.
When the conscious mind is not aligned, you become heady, disconnected from your feelings, numb and you become terrified of surrendering to unknown ways or scenarios. The conscious mind desires to compartmentalize, figure everything out and seeks control.
When we are blindly led by our conscious minds, we miss the richness found in exploring the terrain and finding out what we are capable of.
The doorway to greater fulfillment and wonder is by working with our intricate nature with awareness. The 3 selves are our nature, and with our current approach we are destroying our world. Having this vast reservoir within can heal ourselves and our world quickly and with love.
This is the shift that has saved my derriere so many times, and I am just really learning how to talk about this outside of the predominate approach to just be positive and feel gratitude for life in order to change things. One is a state of witnessing and allowing, and hence your body and being kicks in and begins the process of transformation into a higher state and feeling. The other comes from a place of dominance and fear.
So often, when we feel something seemingly negative we will instantly want to fix or change it. Trying to be grateful from a place of repression is not possible. You might be able to glean it and you will miss it passing through your feeling body and it will not manifest. Then you will most likely begin the conversation on what did I do wrong, not good enough, etc. It has taken me decades to understand this. It seems to be the natural response of the mental body in its desire to keep everything under control,to give a map of what we are supposed to do. If we are not connected to our hearts or inner child, we are not aligned with the map and we get lost. It is not because the map is wrong, it is how we try to find our way. It becomes hit or miss for sustainable change.
Next time a pattern or block resurfaces, explore becoming a witness to how you deal with your humanness.Then engage in the concept, this block or pattern is here to teach me something powerful and stunning. I have found all of my blocks come bringing amazing gifts. Because of my armoring I was always beating myself up for not getting "it", oh I have worked on this forever. When I awoke to these blocks are present to guide and teach me where I am out of alignment with my priorities and commitments, I took a deep breath, and understood the magic of surrender.
If I had a magic wand this is what I would gift you with, the place of witness and allowing the magic of your innate ability to heal and transform to become turbocharged. It happens in the space of allowing, and not trying to change.
It is worth it, to invest time in writing down your top priorities. Visit moments in your life that did not work out the way you wanted, and look at your priorities. Doors of understanding will open as to why things turned out the way they did.
Imagine approaching your blocks as the teachers they are, and glean the teaching. It will shift you immediately into a new approach.
Here is an example.
One of my teachers did the betrayal thang, ( a recurring pattern in my life ), and I shut down for years. One day I was praying and I asked what he was here to teach me? As I was feeling the sadness, as clear as day the answer was "to take my power back". That changed my feeling from avoiding, to forgiving and understanding where I was stopping myself. I allowed these feelings to surface and in moments a relationship that had been one way for 14 years, transformed into a magical space of learning how to take my power back. I am forever grateful for his presence in my life.
Lessons that were incredibly burdensome for years, have begun to shift into gifts from my spirit to awaken. I give myself permission to feel it all, and trust my outcome is near. I just had it backwards. I had imagined my outcome yet I did not want to feel my darker feelings that had remained trapped for years.
One of my teachers said, patterns keep repeating until you get the teaching or the teaching gets you.
I begin with,I live from "I am100% responsible for my world", and what I perceive in the outer world is a reflection of my inner communications even though I may not be in touch with them or be able to see them. That sets up the beginning framework of not blaming what is outside me and gives me a great foundation to grow from.
Since my childhood was incest, sexual abuse and extreme physical trauma, I have deeply wrestled with this stand. I always sought an empowering perspective, and for many years I just struggled to cope with giving myself permission to feel all my feelings and gave up trying to skip over it all and forgive. I did try that for quite some time and found the stuff that was festering beneath everything made me feel it was a lie, and that this approach is impossible for reaching true forgiveness.
This is a chunked down version of a 35 year old quest. It has been intense, frequently hard, definitely soul searching, and alas very wondrous and magical as well. I would not trade my life with anyone else, and I would not wish it on anyone else either. My prayer is some of what I have learned might open the door to others that are bumping up against big stuff and might feel at a loss or hopeless or are wondering what they are doing wrong. You are not doing anything wrong. This is hard work and there are not many answers that are working beyond affirmations, thinking positive and staying in control. If you carry pain at this level it is close to impossible to manage our darker feelings, and our society tells us to take a pill and make it go away, or we self medicate to find some relief. Our Veterans with PTSD committing suicide at an alarming rate, our Native Children are killing themselves with drugs and alcohol without understanding the pain they are carrying for many generations, consequences of the American Genocide, and all who struggle with this world and unresolved pain and anguish.
In my experience, just getting over it will not create healing and balance. The whole world told me not to give in to the scarier feelings, and lord I tried. I embarked on a very long quest and for the last 16 years I have gone inward and taken a deep dive into trusting there might be another way.
I would see in the world our children killing children, Isis beheading innocents, rampant drug addiction where 95% of our heroin epidemic begins with pain pills prescribed by doctors and a world where we continually turn to others to fix us, especially when uncomfortable feelings surface. To fix, change or stop them.
Wonder if you understood that fear is natural and part of the mental body's fear of the unknown and surrender? Wonder if you knew the feeling body, will run off with your life, your choices and create an oppressive environment because you are numb and not in touch with heart. Wonder if you know you have a vast inner team that is capable of miraculous solutions and healing, and the gateway is through your feeling body?
I know my approach will never win me a popularity contest, nor make me rich, and I am so very passionate about sharing this approach. Just consider another way. Our old ways are not working.
I just shared this approach with 2 very special Native Elders in exploring this approach for taking into their communities.
An aspect of this conversation is exploring what this turns into in the healed state. We explored what the American Genocide turns into in the healed state. This comes from a teaching I learned years ago and has saved my life on many occasions. This is how it works. Write down your biggest challenges, trauma or source of pain down one column. Now discover what they become when they heal. It will be directly opposite of the source of pain, and be big enough to heal the source of your pain, no matter what happened.
One of my examples:
Rape = I am honored, respected and cherished and touched
appropriately. My passion and honesty is my safety
and God has my back.
Another exercise that is really powerful is to write your negative feelings down quickly and without editing, then burn them or toss them in a prayerful way. Remember unresolved feelings remain trapped inside, and color all your interactions. Getting present to them will help them leave and release a lot of good energy. If you have a lot of unresolved feelings about a relationship even if they have passed, write them a letter. I usually set up these exercises by calling in Divinity to heal this for me and to be sure I cause no harm to anyone.
more on fear of our feelings...
I can remember years ago working with people and offered unlimited coaching. I had most of my clients calling me with tremendous anxiety, and would say I am feeling afraid or fear. It was a profound remember on how we are fearful of our darker or more unsavory feelings.
I had not read "User Illusion" so I was not very good at explaining or smoothing their ruffled raw feelings. I would like to say now, that the nature of the Mental Body, or consciousness, by nature is most fearful of the entire feeling body. It views the subconscious or feeling body as dangerous, unruly and needs to be dominated at all costs. It is part of its nature, as is the feeling body or unconscious will continually recreate old ways in order to get us into our survival mode, when we are disconnected. Part of what we are here to do is to elevate, through love, our feeling body and mental body, and that will never be accomplished by domination and repression. Would we do that to a child? That is a question I have learned to use with regularity when monitoring my self talk. A young child learning to walk, would require compassion, repetition, and support, yet so many of us will berate ourselves for not getting it right or not doing it right first time out.
If our outer world is an out-picturing of our inner world, we must pay attention and begin exploring where we need to shift our approach rather than becoming positional on how much work we have done and that it is outside ourselves.
Let us seize this extraordinary moment of change, and learn how to dive into the unknown of us and begin accessing our vastness and our greater expression.
If the nature of the conscious mind is one of terror of the subconscious and is limited (capable of only processing16 bits of information per second) in its capabilities, and the subconscious is vast in its capabilities (processes 11,000,000 bits of information per second) yet has no discernment, imagine the power and vastness of that partnership. By building relationship here as well as trust, coupled with a big picture of what is happening between our 3 selves could open the door to our dreams, longings and destiny, and like exercising a muscle become nimble in our ability to manifest and pray.
I feel there are many who are exploring this or feeling the inner nudge to have a deeper understanding on why some of our tools do not work. So much of what we are taught is true, yet we have to be aligned for them to work, and that is accessed by finding new ways of loving and forgiving ourselves. Add in invoking the assistance, knowledge and blueprint of our High Selves on how to do it, our wings might actually unfold.
I began to relax within myself and let go more and more by understanding the distinctions of our 3 selves. It allowed me to understand why memories wold get triggered and an easier way of building trust and stepping into the unknown of who I am. In User Illusion the author talks about the need of the mental body to always figure things out, reduce things to a simple map or system. That way we do not have to step into the unknown. Becoming the terrain opens to door to the richness of who we are as humans, deep fulfillment and nourishment for our lives. This is the Art of Inner Alchemy.