I read a book years ago about the teachings of the Hathors. I don't have an in depth knowledge about them, One of the authors was Tom Kenyon, and extraordinary man. I was left with a very important road map.
We as humans, we have two things we do that can clog up the works on our journey to health..
1 Judgement of our feelings
When we judge our feelings as bad, wrong, evil or not spiritual we clog up the works. Remember we do have our moral compass
As you fuel your healing of the consciousness of disease or dysfunction, remain ever mindful to remain in your heart. So much can happen here. For me as I continue to release trapped feelings, sometimes feelings that have gone on for generations, it gets easier and easier. Once released I am always filled with relief and joy. It is so worth it.
I have found if I view all this as trapped energy, not good or bad, it allows me to move a lot of pain, a lot of gunk. It is so important to work on this judgement piece. Your well being may depend on this one. Once released a new sense of freedom and confidence. Inner Trust grows.
Now about incompletions. Let's say I still harbor a great deal of sadness about a broken relationship. I noticed I recreated many relationships thereafter that broke in a similar way. This repeating pattern over and over made me afraid of opening my heart again.
A powerful tool is to write a letter to that person. Share all your feelings and how it made you feel. Share how it affected your life, unfiltered. Speak the unspeakable. Give yourself the time to let it rip. Allow yourself to feel it all. When you are done, you will have more understanding and more light. Some or a lot of energy will be freed up for you to use in a new way. Then shred it or burn it. A few people throughout the years have sent these letters, and I would exercise caution. If it is a big issue with this person, and you feel you must, write a few letters first so you can be clear.
There was a powerful teaching relationship that meant the world to me. Through the years this person began to do many things to sabotage me. It was crushing to me. This person had changed my life for the better in many ways.
Because I had much love for this person, I did not have the permission to let it rip. I stuffed my feelings which later turned into anger. I had to find a way of transforming my feelings.....
A lot of my clients go through this as well. If it about their mother, lets say, it can be tough to write about negative effects their actions had on you. Remember you are becoming present to a conversation that is recorded, with no malicious intent. It has been a hidden conversation that has shaped many of your choices.
I tried many ways throughout the years to heal this relationship to no avail.I didn't have permission to write a scathing letter even if I burned it. Here is the doorway. The visualization posted in the Free Resource Page. It was a Mega Transformation moment.
There is a portion of this exercise that allows you to step back and see a bigger picture. While doing this exercise I asked what this person was here to teach me and I got a resounding "to take your power back". Years of sadness transformed into an empowered moment or perspective. Many negative moments melted away, and I no longer viewed this person as a betrayer. This person remains a signal to awaken and I remain grateful for his influence in my life. My resistance melted and my energy freed up.
I have found patterns repeat until you get the teaching or the teaching gets you. Its way easier to go for the teaching.