The reality is when going for big change in your life, the first thing that seems to appear are all the reasons why it can't happen. One of my teachers used to say, what comes up is what needs to be elevated and transformed in order for that change to take place. Add to that my newest important distinction, is making sure your inner child is on board for that change.
Judgement on what you are feeling will throw a big monkey wrench in the works.
When our perceptions are filtered through good/bad, right/wrong, we are handicapped to find new solutions and to see clearly. When we are present or aware, without judgment, our actions align with our commitments.
When we judge, we begin to try, and create doubt and tension.
When I lock up I go to my big picture or purpose
Purpose is the direction and intensity of your intent, sets your goal and moves you to it.
It takes trust to allow your simple awareness, your ”inner child” to take charge, explore trial and error to reach peak experience or performance.
Permission to fail. I think it has taken almost a lifetime to know the importance of failure. I become aware of the importance of my inner dialogue and reaching for gentleness in my approach. Speaking to my inner child as if it is a 3 year old.
Imagine you have permission to fail, a second chance, leaving you free to deal with the task at hand. We can stop trying and be one with the moment. Eliminate concern for getting it right. By releasing conscious control and turning it over to the “inner child”, difficult tasks can be easily dealt with.
Here is a powerful exercise
Focus on one of the senses
Feelings, Physical and Emotional
By focusing on the now, we relax our “trying” and allow us to choose the most
natural direction for change.
We can feel, know what works and what doesn’t.
Noticing subtle changes gives us new tools to solve problems and build on
Awareness can sometimes allow us to see the problem behind the problem.
Accepting the situation as it is sometimes opens the opportunity for change. (so amazingly powerful). Neville says own your current reality and it will set you free.
Pay attention to how you feel when doing your job.
Find what you can love, or enjoy.
When we don’t challenge ourselves, cause ourselves to stretch, we sink into mediocrity and boredom. We reach new heights by building on what we know, mastering technique, instilling confidence, inspiring us to learn more. Noticing our growth as it occurs provides us with the encouragement and discipline to continue learning. It is through this repetition, we begin trusting the relationship with the “inner child”; opening the doors to our vast reservoir of knowledge and ability to problem solve and find solutions.
Setting your goals for achievement, experience and learning.
Your goal/outcome will work in your “inner child” and drive you forward
Here is a really powerful exercise in journaling.
Learning goal; to handle my fear of failure and to have better concentration
Create a goal or outcome journal
Write in it everyday
Long range 5-10 years
Medium range 1-5 years
Short range 2-15 weeks
This weeks goal
Next weeks goal
Barriers to Trust (identify)
Doubting your Ability (identify)
Fear of losing Control (notice)
Concern about how you are perceived (identify)
Trust must be present to turn things over to our “inner child”, the most capable aspect of our being.
“Letting go to the environment”.
Look around the room for something that possesses the quality you feel you are lacking. Feel it, experience it through your senses, then get back to the task at hand. This will trigger access to the “Me”.
“Letting go to overload”.
“Letting go to the impossible”. Often a fruitful doorway during crisis. It is really letting go to the possible, the potential within.
The ‘Consciousness” is concerned with failure, and unless we become vulnerable and accept it as possibility we can never know how far our “inner child” can take us. What first looks stressful or negative, can be understood as opportunities for discovering resolution and solutions, we can begin to flow with them. Our greatest pleasures often embrace our ability to bring a seemingly negative situation into harmonious resolution. Our goal is to experience the now fully, without judgment.