This is the shift that has saved my derriere so many times, and I am just really learning how to talk about this outside of the predominate approach to just be positive and feel gratitude for life in order to change things. One is a state of witnessing and allowing, and hence your body and being kicks in and begins the process of transformation into a higher state and feeling. The other comes from a place of dominance and fear.
So often, when we feel something seemingly negative we will instantly want to fix or change it. Trying to be grateful from a place of repression is not possible. You might be able to glean it and you will miss it passing through your feeling body and it will not manifest. Then you will most likely begin the conversation on what did I do wrong, not good enough, etc. It has taken me decades to understand this. It seems to be the natural response of the mental body in its desire to keep everything under control,to give a map of what we are supposed to do. If we are not connected to our hearts or inner child, we are not aligned with the map and we get lost. It is not because the map is wrong, it is how we try to find our way. It becomes hit or miss for sustainable change.
Next time a pattern or block resurfaces, explore becoming a witness to how you deal with your humanness.Then engage in the concept, this block or pattern is here to teach me something powerful and stunning. I have found all of my blocks come bringing amazing gifts. Because of my armoring I was always beating myself up for not getting "it", oh I have worked on this forever. When I awoke to these blocks are present to guide and teach me where I am out of alignment with my priorities and commitments, I took a deep breath, and understood the magic of surrender.
If I had a magic wand this is what I would gift you with, the place of witness and allowing the magic of your innate ability to heal and transform to become turbocharged. It happens in the space of allowing, and not trying to change.
It is worth it, to invest time in writing down your top priorities. Visit moments in your life that did not work out the way you wanted, and look at your priorities. Doors of understanding will open as to why things turned out the way they did.
Imagine approaching your blocks as the teachers they are, and glean the teaching. It will shift you immediately into a new approach.
Here is an example.
One of my teachers did the betrayal thang, ( a recurring pattern in my life ), and I shut down for years. One day I was praying and I asked what he was here to teach me? As I was feeling the sadness, as clear as day the answer was "to take my power back". That changed my feeling from avoiding, to forgiving and understanding where I was stopping myself. I allowed these feelings to surface and in moments a relationship that had been one way for 14 years, transformed into a magical space of learning how to take my power back. I am forever grateful for his presence in my life.
Lessons that were incredibly burdensome for years, have begun to shift into gifts from my spirit to awaken. I give myself permission to feel it all, and trust my outcome is near. I just had it backwards. I had imagined my outcome yet I did not want to feel my darker feelings that had remained trapped for years.
One of my teachers said, patterns keep repeating until you get the teaching or the teaching gets you.